In a work environment, it’s almost impossible to get along with everyone. And regardless of the reason why certain people rub you the wrong way, it’s important not to let your frustration get the better of you.
So, whether it’s an overly chatty co-worker or a dictator-like boss, here are six quick tips to help you deal with people that grate you. Because no one wants to live in a constant state of infuriation.
Understand why they annoy you
The first point in dealing with people who annoy you is being aware of why. Is it their motives? Their attitude? Their methods?
If people don’t think the same way as you, that’s no reason to be annoyed. The best collaboration comes from people who think differently to you so there’s a bigger pool of ideas and inspiration to work with. Nail down why it’s so frustrating and it won’t feel like such a battle.
Speak the same language
Some of the biggest frustrations arise because of communication breakdowns. Be clear and concise in your interactions in person, over the phone and via email. This leaves little room for misinterpretation.
Find out how your boss best likes to communicate and when the best time for talking is. There’s nothing worse than interrupting someone at a bad time.
Focus on a specific issue
One of the worst things you can do in a work (or personal) environment is to let individual issues or problems build up.
It’s not productive for you to deal with a lump sum of problems, and it’s not fair on who you’re getting angry at if they’re unaware of previous mishaps. Deal with one problem at a time. It’ll stop the feelings of resentment and anger.
Build a positive relationship
People are more likely to work harder for someone they like and respect. And if you’ve got a good relationship with them, it’s going to be a lot easier to sit down and talk about things. For example, if someone’s annoying you because they can’t meet deadlines, it’s easy to have a chat about whether they need extra support if you have a good understanding of each other.
This doesn’t mean you have to be mates with everyone, but at the end of the day, we spend more time with our colleagues than our family, so you may as well try and support each other. It’ll make everyone’s lives and jobs easier.
Look at yourself
This one is hard to admit, but sometimes the problem might not just be one-sided. Take an honest look at yourself. Are your expectations realistic?
If you’re frustrated at the speed of other people, maybe you’re being a little impatient. maybe you’ve got to work on compromising and negotiating a little better. Often the easiest thing to change is yourself.
Go around them
Finally, sometimes it just happens that someone is impossible to work with. If all else fails, be calm when looking at alternatives. Is there a manager or someone else you can talk to? Is shifting teams a viable solution?
Make sure you’ve thought of some realistic options that will enable you to cross paths with this person less. A lot of frustration we feel is unnecessary, and if the trigger can be removed, the happier you’ll be.