How to Look Like You Have Your Life Together (When You Really Don’t)

Have you ever looked at someone and thought “wow, that person really looks like they have their shit together”? Being a Uni student, it happens on the daily for me! It seems my peers are all able to balance the workload of a full-time double degree, whilst working thirty plus hours a week, whilst interning, maintaining a seemingly flawless body and never missing any social events.

But what about the rest of us? The ones who struggle to merely show up to a lecture with a fully charged laptop? The ones who have to turn their bags completely inside out just to find a pen? What about us, the one’s who don’t have their lives together? Over the years, I’ve figured out that most of the time, the people who appear to have their lives in order are just as baffled by the stress of it all as we are! So here is a list of ways to make you feel like you have a little bit of control and order over your crazy life!



Have you ever looked at someone with nice stationary and not thought “damn, that person must really have their shit together”? A new diary, notebook and pen will give off the impression that you have your life in order, even when you don’t – which, by the way, is totally ok too!

Now can we please have a round of applause for the token ‘sticky-note’ person! Oh and a special thanks to the people who always have a stapler when you need it!

Clean your desktop

Untitled 1. Untitled 2. Untitled 3. GET. RID. OF. THEM.

They say the state of your bed reflects the state of your mind. Well in this case, the state of your desktop reflects the state of your mind.

In the same way that you would (or would not) make your bed, its time to ‘make’ your desktop by getting rid of all those untitled documents that are floating around. Organise your files into topical folders and choose a clean and clear background pic!

Social media

Social Media can help create the illusion of success. Using Facebook, Instagram and Twitter to motivate and inspire will automatically make people think you are more successful than what you are.

It’s a sad reality, but we are judged by the way we present ourselves in the virtual world, therefore it makes logical sense to present yourself in a way that reflects the values and qualities you wish to emulate.

Calendar apps

We all have that one friend who, when making plans, pulls out their iPhone and says “let me check my calendar”, as if they have better plans than hanging out with your awesome self.

But let’s face it, it does seem like they have their shit together. Don’t be fooled, its an illusion that you too can copy! Google Calendar or even the standard iPhone calendar app can help you achieve this! Why not use them to your advantage?

Update your resume

Tidy up and refine your resume. Give it a new title and fix up the format! Play with different fonts and sizes until it encapsulates elements of your personality, whilst still looking smart, organised and professional.

Business cards

Pull a Kevin Gnapoor from Mean Girls and hand out business cards. In this day and age, your level of success is driven by how well you can network. Ok, this one only works if you actually have a service to network to people.

Whether you are a freelance writer, tutor or graphic designer, we can all benefit from a simple business card. They make you more memorable and are a simple and cheap method of networking.

Get the news

Successful people have a good understanding of current events and what’s happening in the world. They stay alert and up to date with what’s current by engaging with different forms of news and media.

Yes, this even extends to the ‘trending’ section of Facebook. You don’t have to buy the paper every morning, but it is seriously respectable if you do!

Create an email signature

An email signature is a great way to market yourself in a positive and professional light. It suggests a willingness to communicate and shows you have gone the extra mile to self-brand.