Is it possible to break a negative relationship with money and boost your finances into the future? Why, yes funny you should ask. It is as easy as opening up a Duff beer and changing your Facebook status from ‘single’ to ‘it’s complicated’. And here’s how.
You can have $100 or eat the doughnut. What would you do?!
You know the story, pay day comes around but sooner than you’d like to admit, it’s gone and you’re starting to wonder, “why does it disappear so fast?!”
Take a look at how your parents are around money. Ask yourself these three easy question.
1. Are they savers or spenders?
2. Do they have a balanced view or do they use money like being a tool?
3. Do they think money is hard to earn and easy to spend?
Want to be rolling in it with Bart?!
Chances are you’ve picked up on these habits. It’s difficult to change habits, especially around money and relationships. It’s because it’s so emotive and when you have strong emotions, the brain links them to experiences and they build neural pathways in the brain that are hard to break. These are unconscious blocks that affect your everyday dealings with money.
Everyone has unconscious patterning and blocks around money. This needs to be addressed and worked on to solve these issues long term. You need to take different action to get a new outcome.
‘Money block’s come from a variety of different areas. Partly it from your family, with the questions above giving you an insight into how your relationship with money has been shaped. It is also partly from your filters imposed on you as a young child. This is when your brain was really starting to establish rules and associations that keep you safe, alive and in survival mode. You probably keep replaying these behaviours all through your life as they are familiar and keep you safe and at the end of the day you’re surviving so you’re alive.
Mr Burns thinking about all his $$$
If you don’t address these then they will keep giving you grief through different stages of your life. It’s not your fault you aren’t aware of these blocks, after all, if they were conscious, you would have changed them! So, it’s not necessarily your fault but it is your responsibility to take good care of money. You can break the bonds of these generational blocks.
Step 1: The first physical and practical step is for you to have an awareness that you actually want to do or experience something different. It is possible to have a better experience around money and not be struggling all the time. You actually have to want something more for yourself.
Step 2: The second step is actually taking responsibility for where you’re at. How bad is it really? Who is involved? Are you triggered to spend money at certain times – get into a bit of detail about this. Really write down what’s happening.
More money?! Excellent!
To do either of these, create more money or save money, I like to use a tool called the Rule of W. Small changes you make in your 20’s has profound effects due to “dollar up” processes. That’s where money saved or earnt today can build in a positive or negative leveraged way with less effort. There is so much money in the world, you can’t actually count it.
How you feel about money can be a key due to your ability to access it easily or have it flow towards you in an effortless way. There are lots of people who seem to always have money on them all the time or they are able to create opportunities all the time. What are their secrets who have transformed their relationship with money? Well, think of a golden retriever. They’re always happy, right? They always want more, give them a biscuit and they just wag their tail and ask for another one…and another one…and so on. They never get tired of asking for more biscuits and they are so happy doing it all the time.
It’s exactly the same for us, you just have to ask for a better situation. What do you want? Ask, What, Who, Where, When, Why and How, and then going deeper, what would this mean for you if you had these things in this way? Give it some detail and let the answers come to you easily. But understanding the unconscious patterns is the key to get rid of these and things really start to happen.
Millie Swann is an executive business change strategist and leadership mentor to CEOs, executive decision makers and people who are specialists at what they do. http://millieswann.com.au/