Why You Need to Stop Comparing Yourself to Everyone Else in The World

If you’re a millennial, like myself, you’ve likely stumbled across this article after hours (yes, look up, its been hours) of searching why you’re unhappy and/or why your career isn’t going the way you want it to.

There might be a couple of factors to your (unfounded or not) disappointment with the progress of your life, career and general direction of your twenties. You’ll be pleased to hear there’s plenty you can do about it, with a lot of patience and bucket loads of persistence.

If you’re displeased (understatement of the year amirite!?) with the progress of your career, it might have something to do with your unrealistic expectations. As this illustrated story depicts, millennials are a particular generation. Otherwise known as Gen Y, born between the early 1980s and sometime around 2000, older generations deride us as spoilt, unappreciative brats. To an extent, they’re not wrong – but don’t punish the messenger!

Growing up with baby boomer parents who enjoyed the fruits of sustained, practical careers (courtesy of their upbringing) and a booming economy until the 90s, words like “special”, “unique” and “different” were thrown around like cola Chupa Chups in our childhood.

We’ve therefore grown up expecting all these amazing adjectives to be reflected through our lives, through our love lives, through our friends and through our careers. And when that doesn’t happen for a whole lot of factors which may or may not be out of your control (the poor job economy, Victoria’s oversaturated higher education system and sometimes, entitlement), you become disappointed and unhappy.

Just to exacerbate the situation (because God is ab-so-lutely hilarious), social media slaps you in the face. According to your old high school buddy’s Facebook page, your university acquaintance’s Instagram and your irritating co-worker’s Twitter, they’re all enjoying the success you so desperately want.

But here’s the thing about the social media boom. It brought us some of the best tools in the last decade (aka being able to look up what a meal looks like before you order), but it’s also an extremely effective way of depicting a person’s best moments with none of their uncomfortable lows. Next time your obsessively browsing LinkedIn, remember that you’re seeing the best glimpse of a person’s career.

So get off Facebook and start getting productive. Find some worthwhile internships, study up on extra information, attend lectures and be eager to become a continuous learner. As for social media? Sometimes when you realise you’re in a toxic relationship, the best thing to do is walk away ASAP. Sorry social media, we have some wonderful memories, but you’re just not what we’re looking for at the moment.